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Better Not Bitter...

You get to choose.

 

Experiencing the death of a child is unimaginable, yet this nightmare is now a bereaved parents painful reality...

 
If you are a bereaved parent, first let me say, my heart aches for you and I am so sorry you are experiencing this pain -- a pain only a bereaved parents knows and understands. 
Grief is the natural response to loss of any kind.  It is often a dark and isolating journey, which can be overwhelming and scary.
You're angry.  Irritable.  See no sense of purpose or hope.  Feel invisible.

I see you.  I am you.

I was once caught up in walking down the road of resentment after losing my daughter.  Quite honestly, it can be pretty tempting and seem easier to stay in the suck.  It takes a lot less energy to be swallowed up and consumed, without putting up a fight.
 
Right after my daughter died, I was in go mode, trying to make things happen that most likely were not meant to be. It was kind of like trying to put a square peg into a round hole. Trying to make sense of her death, finding a reason.  Everyone kept saying 'everything happens for a reason' so I insisted on finding one. With no answer (because there will never be one), I was frustrated.
 
Anger consumed me most of the time. It was easier to hold onto the hostility and animosity I felt towards those who had what we lost. I allowed the extreme disappoint to hinder relationships with family and friends; those who said nothing or avoided bringing up my daughter in conversation due to the awkwardness that they felt around us and our grief. The texts subsided, the meal train of pasta dishes came to an end. Life for everyone was moving on.  But I so desired to go backward. I was stuck, unsure of where to go and what to do.
 
I ignored my emotional needs because I thought that no one could fulfill them. It was just easier to push them down and say "I'm fine."
 
But, I wasn't and eventually over time I took the steps to make a change.  I recognized these harboring feelings needed to go. By holding onto all the negative, I was not making any space for love, opportunity, or growth. Finding avenues and outlets in general health and wellness, I began to release the emotions I didn't care to hold onto anymore. I was starting to fill that space with emotions of value for me, for my family, for my growth. And my heart extended out to helping other parents walking a similar path.
 
You see, those of us who are grieving have the ability to expand our capacity for compassion exponentially. We've been there, we've climbed out of the trenches, we can sympathize with others who are hurting. No matter the difference in circumstance. We can be supported in the midst of supporting someone else. We can be there and stand with someone in their worst moment because we have been there, too.
 
We have the power to choose. And if one day we feel we are not on the path we need to be, we can decide to choose differently. That part of our journey will always present for us to make a choice, to start again.
 
I can look back now and see that the pain and challenge, no matter how brutal, all connect to love.  
It is my mission to support bereaved parents as they navigate their grief journey to help find renewed strength, purpose and possibility.
Even when it seems impossible, remember... maybe right now it feels that way, but stay open to seeing that change
Better or bitter... you get to choose.
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Bereaved Mother's Day Brunch & Conference

SUNDAY, MAY 3, 2020

9:30 a.m. Registration

10:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.

The Box Milwaukee

311 E. Wisconsin Ave.

A very special event celebrating and empowering bereaved moms hosted by Better Not Bitter Mom LLC. 

Meditation - Brunch - Guest Speakers - 4:13 MOVE:ment Method Panel Q&A - Sound Bath - Breakout Sessions - Snacks - Giveaways AND MORE!!!

Spend a beautiful day connecting and learning how to equip yourself and others to receive the best support as you navigate your grief journey after loss!

*A portion of all ticket sales directly benefit the Bereavement Fund of Children's Hospital WI

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